Bridal Shower Woes, Part 2?

you can sweetly say to your FMIL "I know that it will be wierd to be around your ex husband's new wife, so I was thinking that if you wanted to, we could have another party with just you and your family!" (and then maybe she will have the party) or you could tell her that the party hostess will be at the ceremony, the reception, she will be your baby's grandma, etc. She needs to realize that she is acting silly. she needs to be a grown up, suck it up and deal with it in any way she chooses. If she doesnt go to the shower, then she can stay home and brood alone! Her family probably doesnt care....but she does. I'll tell you something, Im having a baby shower for my FSIL this weekend and Im inviting her mom, her stepmom, her stepmom's daughter, her mom's mother, etc. and they will just hang out, eat, talk, laugh etc because they are all adults. your party will be lovely and whoever attends are your truest friends